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How to Find your Authentic Self: A Psychologist’s Insight

In our quest for true fulfillment, there is a universal desire to embrace our authentic selves. Through this pursuit, we find purpose, happiness, and genuine joy in life. By delving deep within ourselves, we better understand the world around us.

Discovering and embracing our authentic selves is a deeply personal journey unique to each individual. But how can we uncover and be true to our authentic selves? We had the privilege of chatting with esteemed psychologist Ayşe Meltem Budak about the invaluable significance of authenticity and her expert insights on “Discovering your Authentic Self.” Continue reading our Q&A to find strategies that can help you reveal your authentic self.

Finding Your Authentic Self: An interview with Dr Ayse Meltem Budak

What does it mean to be ‘authentic’?

Authenticity goes beyond simply existing; it’s about taking authorship of your own life. It involves being fully present, understanding yourself, embracing who you are, and expressing that truth to the world. By being authentic, we establish a profound connection with ourselves, gaining a deeper understanding of our identity.
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How can someone discover their authentic self?

Reconnecting with oneself is pivotal in this journey. It begins by cultivating awareness of our five senses but recognizing and acknowledging our emotions is the real essence. Can you accurately discern your current state of being? What emotional state are you willing to embrace and express? Authenticity requires aligning our inner truth with our outward expression. Pretending to be content with something we’re not comfortable with hinders authenticity. Understanding the distinction between what we genuinely feel and what we show is crucial. By delving into our emotional landscape, we unlock the key to authenticity – establishing a genuine connection with our emotions.

Amidst external pressures, such as societal expectations molded by childhood conditioning, media influences, and cultural norms dictating how we should express ourselves as parents, partners, or professionals, how can we recognize what feels truly authentic?

Indeed, external factors like gender, culture, and societal expectations can greatly influence our sense of self. Exploring our upbringing becomes vital. Were we nurtured, loved, and encouraged to seek help when needed? How did we perceive ourselves and the world around us? Reflecting on these experiences helps us understand misalignments between societal expectations and our true selves. To embark on authenticity, we must continually ask ourselves probing questions: “Where am I now?” and “What do I need?” This self-reflection allows us to heal past wounds, prioritize self-care, and connect with our authentic selves.
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In today's world, many individuals find themselves drifting away from their authentic selves or feeling like they've lost touch with their true essence. So, how can one reclaim their authenticity and realign with their genuine self?

In today’s world, many individuals find themselves drifting away from their authentic selves or feeling like they’ve lost touch with their true essence. So, how can one reclaim their authenticity and realign with their genuine self?

The first step is cultivating a deeper connection with your emotions and body. Start by simply observing your body. When your mind begins to wander, caught up in thoughts, plans, and responsibilities, gently invite yourself back to the present moment. Observe how you walk and hold your posture – consciously reconnecting with your physical self. As you do so, become aware of the feelings and sensations that arise within you.

Name the emotional state you’re experiencing, for emotions always carry messages. Be it negative or positive, there is purpose behind each emotion. For instance, anger or guilt may surface, revealing moments when you weren’t true to yourself. Acknowledge these emotions and allow them to be expressed effectively. Understand that even though you made mistakes, suffering is a choice. Embrace the truth, learn from it, apologize if necessary, and reflect and journal. Discover techniques to regulate and soothe your emotions mindfully.

Engaging in meditation practices can be immensely helpful as well. You can observe your gut feelings, thoughts, and instincts through meditation. This reflective process allows you to delve deeper into your authentic self. Interestingly, authenticity embraces duality both within yourself and about others. It is within the delicate balance of this duality that enlightenment, wisdom, and genuine connections thrive.

Rediscovering authenticity, engaging with others, and remembering that life isn’t solely about ourselves are vital. Contributing to others and extending a helping hand allows us to become part of something greater than ourselves. In this act of giving, we assist others and heal ourselves.

Our brains are wired to connect with others, as research shows that the release of oxytocin, the “love hormone,” is heightened when we give to others rather than keep it to ourselves. However, it’s essential to maintain a sense of balance in our interactions, avoiding overextending ourselves or isolating ourselves in solitude.

In your journey toward authenticity, embrace the beauty of self-discovery, connect with your emotions, and foster meaningful connections with others. By doing so, you’ll embark on a path of fulfillment, wisdom, and a genuine relationship with yourself and the world around you.

Remember, authenticity is a lifelong journey of self-discovery and growth. Embrace the process, honor your emotions, and continuously explore what it means to be your true, authentic self.